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Name: modgurl
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Sunday, July 15, 2012 @ 11:23 pm

Dear Blogger,

I find myself more and more into vegan baking lately, but not because I'm ditching meats and dairy goodbye. Yes, vegan baking seems to be healthier. Most do not include butter or eggs in their recipe. It means I can have cakes regularly without the calories or cholesterol guilt.

However, I'm leaning towards vegan baking precisely because of its no butter and no eggs recipes! I find baking with butter is a chore because of the measurement maths I have to do. Most regular recipes call for sticks of butter, cups or grams. Firstly, few supermarkets in Singapore stock butters in sticks and they can cost more than other packaged butter. Secondly, measuring butter in cups may not be accurate. Finally, metric-based recipes require me to bring out my temperamental kitchen scale.

Recipes with eggs, especially egg whites or separated eggs, are a lot of work. Even the size of eggs can make or break the recipe! Also, eggs are expensive these days. So is butter! The unsalted ones cost even more! The cost of one block of unsalted butter (225g) can buy me a McDonald's everyday value meal.

Therefore, vegan baking is not only healthier, it's easier to make and cheaper! I'm not too fussy about the taste and look of cakes, so I don't worry too much if my vanilla sponge didn't rise as much as when using non-vegan recipes. As of today, I've baked vegan vanilla (both white and yellow) and chocolate cakes and they've become my go-to recipes for fast, delicious baking.


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Monday, July 09, 2012 @ 8:39 am

Dear Blogger,

I'm beginning to realise why and how some married couples only have two or three children. Yes, financial stability is a major reason but what I've realised is actually more disturbing than dollars and cents! Married couples with children just stop having sex! Gasp!

I don't think it's usually by choice. I think the circumstances made it as such. My newborn daughter Mairah seeks more attention than her older siblings. So much so that she won't sleep well without me by her side. Her older siblings could sleep without much fuss when they were her age. As such, we could just leave them in their cot after a few minutes of bedtime ritual.

So ever since Mairah was born, I have been sleeping with her in the children's room. Not in her cot, but on the queen-sized bed that was formerly bought for my father who stayed with us for a couple of months. Sarah, who has developed separation issues ever since I stayed in the hospital for Mairah's birth, sleeps with me too.

Iman, who won't go to sleep as long as his sister is awake, sleeps with his father in the other room on our $6,000 marital bed. With the door closed. Iman has a habit of getting down from the bed and walk into other rooms when everyone else is asleep. Three people on a queen-sized bed. Two people on a king-sized bed. Doesn't make sense I know.

So this unplanned sleeping arrangement dragged on for nights until it became hard to get the children to sleep in their own room. Since their father didn't make any effort to get them to sleep on their own bed, I just let them be due to exhaustion.

So as you can see, sex is out of the picture. How to have sex when we have children on our bed??? Even if they're not on our bed or in our room, there won't be enough time to have sex before the children start knocking on our door demanding to be let in. They WILL demand believe me. The children have discovered the art of brawling and emotional blackmail.

Sex in the day is also out. Too many activities in the house. Too distracting. And too embarrassing. What other options do we have? Sex in the car like two horny teenagers? The car has become smaller now with children's car seats, toys, cushions, etc. Besides, Ipy and I are no longer as agile or slim as we used to be. Sex in a hotel room? Too costly. The money could be better spent on the children's formula milk and diapers.

So you see. This was my revelation! This is how married couples stop having children! Very sad but very true.


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Tuesday, July 03, 2012 @ 10:48 pm

Dear Blogger,

I heard a very interesting and hilarious discussion on Ria 89.7FM this afternoon. It was about men and saying "I love you" to their wives/girlfriends generously. This is one of those topics that could be discussed forever and anyone who participates is a non-certified expert.

Hearing all those men trying to explain themselves why such declarations of love are as difficult as lifting their fingers in household chores was both hilarious and insightful. A common reason given was that to say "I love you" often was deemed "unmanly" for men. Another common reason was that it dilutes the value of the declaration.

As for me, saying "I love you" does not equate doing things for me because you love me. In fact, I get squirmish when such words are said to me! Anyone who's ever in a relationship with me knows that it's rare for me to utter those words. Even in writing its rare! I'm an "action speaks louder than words" kind of girl.

Not that I don't ever want to hear it. Once in awhile it ok. There are occasions when I don't wish to hear it. Like during sex. How cliché is that??? It's one of those things that what may look or sound good in movies need not be true in real life. There are moments, magical moments, when those words will be said naturally. I can't define those moments because if I could, they wouldn't be magical would it?

So men, don't worry if you can't say "I love you" as often as your wives/girlfriends want to hear them. Not all women need to hear those words. Love comes in many languages and I'm not just referring to verbal. My love language is acts of service (action). Others could be words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts or physical touch.

That is why I get very suspicious and cynical when men say those words to me so liberally. Are these Casanovas sincere or just paying lip service. Of course not all women are like me. Ipy always says if all women are like me, the world will be even crazier.


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