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Name: modgurl
Location: Singapore

New mom. New woman. Born in Singapore. Raised in the World Wide Web.
Monday, January 30, 2012 @ 8:23 am

Dear Blogger,

Last Saturday night, on my 32nd birthday, Ipy and I attended our very first concert together at the Singapore Indoor Stadium. Who was playing? Malay rock legends Search! Search is headlining with another 80s/90s Malay rock band, XPDC, which I wasn't that familiar with.

Search has been in the music industry for 30 years already. Their biggest hits were in the good old big-haired, rock days of the 80s and early 90s. Think of U2/Scorpions/Bon Jovi (without the sappy love songs) and you'll have Search. In fact, the lead singer, Amy (he's a guy, not a girl) has reinvented himself several times just like Bono.

Ipy and I were looking forward to this concert because the last time Amy performed here (as a solo artist), we heard his concert was good. His concert with his band last Saturday night, did not disappoint. Their stage experience was evident and Amy put all the 20-something rocker-wannabe to shame with his energy. He's 54 by the way. The stadium was singing along to all their megahits and by the end of their 1-hour plus set, we were all on our feet for a standing ovation. They showed us why they were and still is, the rock gods of Malay music.

The next band, XPDC, didn't fare too well. It had 2 different line-ups in fact! That was unusual. The first one that came on, was the later reincarnation of the band, with a heavier rock metal sound. This line-up was heavily influenced by Metallica. Even the vocalist looked a lot like that singer from Metallica, before he chopped off his mane!

The second line-up was the original version which most of its hits were produced. Unfortunately, the singer had very weak vocals, unlike the newer singer. We could barely hear him and thus, most of the music they were playing sounded alike. I was almost dozing off! Pity that I couldn't recognise some of their hits. The original line-up had some great songs but the weak voice of the singer didn't do any of their songs nor the band any justice. Felt the sound engineer could have done something to improve the situation.

Things picked up when both XPDC line-ups came together for an unplugged session. By then, it was almost midnight. Some of the crowds were already streaming out of the stadium. I think they were trying to catch the last few trains from the stadium. Pity. This unplugged session was the best sounding of XPDC's set. Finally, they sang their biggest radio-hit and everyone went home happy.

Not a fan of their hit song. Thought it was a really stupid song. It did teach mat rockers how to spell though. Ask any mat rocker how to spell "cinta" (love) and they'll gladly belt out XPDC's hit song. Humourous.

All in all, Search whet my appetite for more rock concerts. Ipy is already looking forward to the next concert in March featuring his rock goddess, Ella and his rock idol, Awie. As for me, I hope Search performs here again with a full set. Disappointed that they couldn't sing some of their hits like "Gadis Misteri" (Mystery Girl) and "Rozana" because of the double showcase. It's alright because they rocked my boat last Saturday night.

Altogether now... Gadisku~...

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Tuesday, January 24, 2012 @ 10:22 pm

Dear Blogger,

Today was a very unproductive, lazy day. I hate it when the lazy bug hits me! It always comes when I've deadlines to meet. When I woke up this morning, I've already planned my day. But somehow after breakfast, I ended up mindlessly googling for websites that I don't even remember now. Tired of staring at the screen, I went to the much bigger screen in the living room. And I've been there since. Don't you just hate that?

I am one of those people when inspiration strikes me, I can do magic. But when the lazy spirit possesses my body, I can't do nuts! Even if I've assignment due tonight, I won't be able to do anything with this laziness inside me. It's really annoying!

What can I do to overcome this? Does anyone have the same problem as I do? Maybe it only happens to gifted people. That's why there's a saying, "You can't rush a genius". Not that I'm a certified genius or anything but I've been known to be knowledgeable. So that's a form of giftedness right?

So does anyone have a remedy for laziness?

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Monday, January 23, 2012 @ 10:36 am

Dear Blogger,

Is it me or does my family have a habit of going-to-the-hospital-sick during public holidays or long weekends? I have lost count of how many times I've wasted my precious hours at the hospital because one of my family members had high fever or broken leg or some illness that requires A&E attention.

Why can't they get themselves admitted on working days? Do you know how small the workforce is at the hospital on public holidays? Do you know that the workforce is even smaller during Chinese New Year (CNY) holidays??? Waiting time is already unbearably long on normal days but on CNY, time does not even exist!

Some of my international readers may argue that hospital waiting time in Singapore isn't as bad as in their countries, but that's what makes Singapore SINGAPORE isn't it? We're supposed to be efficient and effective. The fact that we are not as populous as other countries should make living and services here more efficient.

I don't know what's wrong with my brother this time. I'm more appalled at the attention he's getting from my mother. It took her one week to finally send my dad to the hospital who had high fever. The result of that delay caused my dad another leg. It only took her a few hours to send my brother to the hospital who had mid to high fever. Is there bias to her love or am I just imagining things?

I am getting agitated. I hate waiting. There are a thousand and one things I want to do and some of them I need to do. I can't do them because I'm here at A&E waiting for any doctor to make it out of bed. Ridiculous!

Sincerely,
modgurl.


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Monday, January 09, 2012 @ 9:00 am

Dear Blogger,

As I listened to this morning's sermon on radio, I couldn't help but wondered if I was less of a Muslim woman just because I drive a car and I walk ahead of my husband many a times. At least that was what the preacher (ustaz) was trying to say. I might have misinterpreted his message but really, I've heard of some local religious officials who promote the ideal Muslim woman's characteristics and behaviours as those enforced in Saudi Arabia.

Man... You have no idea how many issues I have with Saudi's idealisms. Not just with its "protection" policies of its women there. Saudi Arabia may be the guardian of Islam's two holiest mosques, but that doesn't mean its brand of Islam is the ultimate perfect one for the rest of the world to follow.

Many, many years ago when I visited Mecca and Medina, instead of feeling protected, I felt even more violated. My freedom was almost non-existent. I couldn't go to the shops nor to the Grand Mosque (which was just outside my doorstep) without a male relative to escort. I was in my 20's yet I was treated like a child. I could be charged criminally as an adult but I couldn't be an adult woman. In fact, I wasn't even considered a person!

So what really makes a person a Muslim? A Muslim person, not a Muslim man nor woman. I don't have any concrete answers. This is still a learning journey for me. What I know is theological idealism should be practiced alongside innate common sense. That's why we are blessed with souls within our unique physical state.

I have much respect to Muslim converts. Unlike many Muslim-born people, the converts (muallaf) found God at some point in their lives. For many Muslim-born people, Islam was by default and we appreciate its beauty and messages less because we thought we didn't need to go look for a faith anymore. For some like me, faith and God has always been there but at different intensities throughout our lives. Perhaps that's how God intended it for me. I wouldn't have lived any other way.

So, today, think about faith. Did you find faith or did faith find you?

Sincerely,
modgurl.


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Tuesday, January 03, 2012 @ 10:25 pm

Dear Blogger,

So Katy Perry has asked Russell Brand to file divorce papers for her just so that she won't upset her conservative parents. That's a little mean don't you think? I'm not sure what's the real story behind their split but I really think it wasn't Russell who wanted the divorce. When these two unlikely couple tied the knot, I really hoped that they would really beat the odds by staying together for as long as Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale was. It was a bit of a shocker to read about their breakup over the New Year. But not as heartbreaking as when Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams split up.

Anyway, why was I surprised? Divorce in Hollywood is as common as blond, aesthetically-enhanced women there. Fidelity is not regarded highly in La La Land. Infidelity can make a jilted spouse a millionaire. A faithful spouse doesn't. The latest multi-millionaire is former Mrs Mel Gibson. I have to say she earned every $400 million Mel has to pay her, after almost 20 years of marriage and 7 children. Was it 7 children? Ipy and I think Mel Gibson had a mid-life crisis and he paid dearly for that.

Ipy can attest to the fact that divorce is expensive considering he was a one-time male divorcee. He didn't have to pay alimony but lawyer's fees along can set you back a few months' salary. Guess that was small change now considering our paths were meant to cross, no matter how rocky (and expensive) the journey was. So my advice to the young and heartbroken now is, if it's not meant to then it's not meant to be. Free yourself from the painful past and give fate a chance. Once you've learnt to let go, things will fall into place. That's just how life works its magic.

So Katy and Russell, maybe you were just not meant for each other. Maybe you were, just like Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton. Those two were clearly soulmates who just can't stay married to each other. Whatever it is, give "for better and for worse, till death do us part" a chance.

Sincerely,
modgurl.


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Sunday, January 01, 2012 @ 9:55 am

Dear Blogger,

First and foremost, Welcome 2012!!! Secondly, I'd like to apologise to my readers (can't believe I still have readers!) for not blogging regularly like I said I should. Many things have happened in my life in 2011. Of course, the big one is that I'm pregnant with my third child. The sex of the baby is still unconfirmed. Does it matter? Not really. I already have a daughter and a son. In terms of resources, I have both gender's clothes to hand down. It's a bit unfair though isn't it how younger siblings have to wear or use their oldest siblings' stuff?

The other big change is that I'm back in the workforce after many years of blissful domestic life. I still don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to accept homemaking as a choice. In this post-feminist world, women can't be housewives??? Isn't the point of feminism the ability for women to make choices and not made to feel guilty about the choice they make? I'm no Germaine Greer, but if that isn't feminism then I don't know what is.

What do I hope for 2012? Nothing. I've yet to fulfill all my past years' hopes. Why make new ones when I've outstanding hopes full to the brim? If I really, really have to have a hope for 2012, then can I hope for a naughty one? I do hope my husband can be a bit more adventurous in the bedroom. Not sure if that's my request or my hormones. I'm in that stage in my pregnancy when I'm sexually active and experimental. Unfortunately, hubby is a very straight guy. There's only so much excitement in "touch and go" sex.

It's interesting though how sex is much more fun when it's "sinful". Just like how most unhealthy food is in fact, to die for when consumed. Chocolates and fried chicken anyone? Do I need therapy? Wait a minute! A woman thinking about sex is not normal??? And it's normal for a man to do likewise? Think about it. Who has the real power during sex? Hmmm....

For now, I'll just make do with watching True Blood season 4 on HBO. Eric Northman... Yum!

Sincerely,
modgurl.


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