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Name: modgurl
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New mom. New woman. Born in Singapore. Raised in the World Wide Web.
Monday, November 29, 2010 @ 4:51 pm

Dear Blogger,

It is said that the the actual test of a marriage is getting through the 2nd year. Passing the 1st year is easy because everything about each other is still rosy. That's why it is called a honeymoon.

I don't know what the 2nd year of marriage is called but I can say that the rosy picture is peeling layer by layer. For example, before marriage, one hardly hears the other farts. Now, one can hear a symphony of farts and even identify his signature flatulance!

It is understandable that everyone has his quirks. Sometimes they're cute and sometimes they are downright irritating. Marriage teaches us to adjust our tolerance level accordingly. However, I believe that after years of living together, if one doesn't learn his partner's tolerance level and adapt to it, then he is selfish and deserved to be called a wanker.

One particular issue I have with Ipy is his habit of leaving things where they should not be. His keys and bags especially. There is a reason why storage devices for keys and bags are created. It is so the owner of these things won't repeatedly annoy his wife with questions like, "Have you seen my keys?".

Of course the self-proclaimed forgetful owner won't be asking the right questions. If he asks " Have you seen my keys?", he's actually asking if I've seen his keys AND where are they. You see, I'm not just the wife, I'm also the inventory tracker.

I can be magnanimous and blame it on my mild obsessive compulsive behaviour. I won't though. I think nobody should compromise on being neat, tidy and organised.


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Saturday, November 27, 2010 @ 8:20 am

Dear Blogger,

I'm testing Blogger on the Go. I'm posting via email. I'm actually posting in the toilet. That's the beauty of smartphones these days. One can post useless information about oneself from anywhere as long as there is network.

It seems that a phone is no longer a phone unless it can capture HD images. What happened to a good, simple phone? I mean, even when the phone is equipped with high-tech features, say a 10mp camera, we still go out and buy a digital camera! Isn't it redundant?

My husband now carries 2 phones with him; one for business calls and the other for everything else except receiving calls. He used to own just 1 phone that acesses 2 SIM4 cards, but because it wasn't a smartphone, he just got to have a smartphone. He might as well lug around a netbook.

I miss the simple days when technology didn't invade our lives so much. Now toddlers are playing with iPhones instead of Lego blocks. 16-month-old Sarah only plays with iPhones. If the phone isn't touch screen, it won't do.

What happened to actual living???


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Thursday, November 25, 2010 @ 5:09 pm

Dear Blogger,

Having babies back to back is very, very hectic. Not even recommended! I mean, after 3 weeks, I am EXHAUSTED! I know I don't believe in confinement practices, but even if I did, isn't confinement supposed to be some sort of a resting holiday for mommies?

Hopefully our helper will arrive on time. With all that volcanic activity going on in the main Java island, we won't be surprised if she's delayed. By the way, Mercy Relief and Red Cross Singapore need donations to fund their humanitarian aid for the victims of Indonesia's double disaster. Please be generous.

I thought I would have more time to indulge in my hobbies. Boy was I wrong! I can't even get a decent night's sleep! I can't remember the last time I actually had 6-8 hours of sleep. Iman wakes me up hourly either for feeding or to change diaper. He poo poos a lot! If it's not Iman, then it's Sarah. She still wants feeding at least once at night.

I seriously don't know how other mothers do it. Maybe I am not such a superwoman after all. I know I'm whining unreasonably. It's just that I wish all these would be easier on me. Breastfeeding alone can make me go berserk! I am breast milk-challenged!

Hopefully things will get easier. Deep down, I know it will.

Do visit my shop for handmade items. I don't have many items yet, but I will. All items can be customised.

ps. Good luck to those getting their PSLE results today. May you get what you wanted.

Yours sincerely,

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Sunday, November 07, 2010 @ 10:21 pm

Dear Blogger,

On 2nd November at 6.11 p.m., we welcomed a new member to the family. Finally, our son was born. It was a testy pregnancy, but the journey ended well with a smooth delivery. Baby Iman was born in the 38 plus weeks via normal vaginal delivery.

Alhamdulillah our son was finally born at 6.11pm, 2 Nov. Welc... on Twitpic

I opted for epidural again. This time round though, the anaesthetist gave me a lower concentration than previously. Obviously I could feel the increasing intensity of the contractions nearer to delivery.

That defeats the purpose of an epidural in the first place! If I'm going to pay $500 for pain-free drugs and additional $500 for a doctor to inject me with it, then I damn well don't want to feel anything waist down!

The reason I opted for an epidural was not because I was afraid of pain. I just wanted a stress-free, non-crazy-woman-screaming delivery. I wanted my baby to come out to a world where the only crying he would hear was his.

But insya-allah, everything went well. Iman weighed a hefty 3.7kg, a significant 0.2kg heavier than his sister. I had no doubt in my mind than I could deliver such a heavy baby. He's 5cm shorter than Sarah though, but he will still be taller than his daddy.

How did Sarah react to all this? At first, I think she did not realise that this baby will be staying with us permanently. She probably thought he was somebody else's baby. When we brought him home though, the realisation finally set in. Then Sarah became very sensitive to everything.

I know that is a natural reaction. For over a year, Sarah has been receiving our undivided attention. So when a sibling comes in, she will find it hard to share the attention. I am determined though, to ensure that everyone gets a fair share of attention.

How? I don't know. It's a learning process.


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