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Monday, November 23, 2009 @ 9:39 am

Dear Blogger,

Something to put a smile on your face on this cool and rainy Monday.


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Sunday, November 22, 2009 @ 8:02 pm

Dear Blogger,

I read in the newspaper today about BPA-free plastic baby bottles and how some parents are really worried about what they're feeding their babies. Those who aren't parents and aren't familiar with BPA, read on.

Bisphenol A or BPA is a chemical found in plastic baby bottles. There is nothing wrong with the baby bottle if properly used. Problems occur when this chemical leaches out from the bottle into liquid or food. Health governments in most developed countries, including Singapore, has soothed worried parents that the BPA level in plastic baby bottles are so low that there is really nothing to worry about!

I didn't know about this BPA issue until I read the newspaper today. I've come across it before, but I brushed it off as another scientific study that contradicts another. You know how scientific studies are. They are best taken with a pinch of salt.

I am not one of those parents who worry about the slightest detail. I am actually more worried about these parents than their child! Are parents too protective of their children these days? Parents in that show shown recently on Okto, "Cotton Kids" are seriously in need of psychiatric help. But they're extreme cases.

Parents of my generation, are they overprotecting their children? Look at my neighbour for example. I have never seen the children playing at the playground behind us. They don't even play outside their gate! When we were kids, our parents had to haul us back from playing at the corridor for too long!

How are children to learn if they don't experience things for themselves? Isn't it natural for children to suffer bruises, cuts and even broken bones once in their lifetime? One has to learn to fall to learn to get back up!

Overprotective parents may have the best intentions at heart but I fear that they are in denial of the risks their actions may have on their children. If a child doesn't know what dirt feels like, he won't appreciate cleanliness and the hard work put into making a place clean. If a child has never seen blood trickling down his skin, he'd never know what pain feels like.

By keeping a child in an over-sanitised and controlled environment will do more harm to the child than good. Our body has a mysterious way to adapt to changes. Many centuries ago, the flu virus killed millions of people. Yet, many have also survived. Their body became more resilient to subsequent flu attacks. We are the beneficiaries of their adaptability.

So, I implore overprotective parents to step back a little and let your child explore. While your child is exploring the wonders of the world, sit back and reflect a little. Ask yourself, are you really doing what's best for your child?


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Thursday, November 12, 2009 @ 3:18 pm

Dear Blogger,

Ipy is in Brunei again. I'm not sure if Sarah is aware that her daddy hasn't been home for a few days already. Do babies at 3 months old know what's going already?

Now that the examinations are almost over, I have more free time than usual. Not sure what I've been doing with all that time though. Unlike other tai tais, I don't have that much spending power. Most of my allowances go to savings, but by the look of the last update, my savings don't seem to be growing! Hmm...

I was reading OCBC Ladies' Circle "Women & Their Money" booklet, and I realised that the "women" that it referred to didn't represent any housewife! In fact, no financial institution that I know of had any special plans for housewives.

Just because we don't earn income just like our working kind, doesn't mean that we can't be financially savvy. We do need guidance too! Housewives are an untapped market, not in the least unimportant. So if these financial institutions are smart, they'd take the opportunity to cater to our special needs.

By the way, not all housewives are uneducated. No need to look down on us. We are not lazy. We just have different priorities. As far as I'm concerned, "housewife/homemaker" is just another occupation.

We may not pay income tax, but we work as hard as other taxable employees. We may not get company benefits that other women enjoy, but we are content. That's not to say that we don't deserve the benefits given away by the government. We are entitled to government benefits as much as other citizens do.


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Thursday, November 05, 2009 @ 12:40 pm

Dear Blogger,

I don't think it's a secret anymore. I bought Ipy a PS3 Slim for his 38th birthday, which is this Saturday. It's wrapped in brown paper (didn't want to waste money buying decorative wrapping paper) and shelved in the store room. He wanted a "Guitar Hero" pack too, but he can get that himself.

I watched the rerun of the first 2 episode of "Sex and the City" first season on HBO last night. Most Singaporeans didn't get to watch the first few seasons of the award-winning show here because our conservative censorship board thought it was too controversial back then. My my... how times have changed.

The first episode was about "having sex like a man". It got me thinking. First of all, what does "having sex like a man" mean? Secondly, is it possible for a woman to do so? I think we can generally agree that not everybody can be Samantha Jones.

I am not an authority to preach about sex these days because I hardly have any now. I've said this before, it's hard to feel sexy when I feel tired most of the time. Even at times when I wanted to, the sex fizzled in under 5 minutes. It was like a touch and go operation. Where's the romance? Where's the foreplay?

The fact that I am no longer my svelte self also does not help. I feel like I am working my body more than before, yet I am not burning the calories as expected. I find it counter-productive for me to tell myself that I look good no matter what body size or shape I'm in.

Besides, why must I be the only one in this relationship concerned about how I look? As a woman and a wife, I must work physically harder to remain attractive while it's OK for my husband, being a man and all, to grow a beer belly? Why is it that women become "unattractive" as she ages while it's the reverse for men?

OK! I'll say it! I'm insecure! There! Which woman isn't?


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