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Name: modgurl
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New mom. New woman. Born in Singapore. Raised in the World Wide Web.
Friday, August 28, 2009 @ 10:32 pm

Dear Blogger,

I felt very tired. I wanted to go to bed early tonight. As soon as I shut my eyes, some girls downstairs were laughing and screaming. This went off for over an hour. I was so tempted to call the neighbourhood police, but I figured it was still early to call them.

Last night, it was a bunch of drunkards who created a din downstairs. They went on and on with their loud jabbering till sunrise. Ipy went downstairs at about 5 a.m. to check them out. He said they were young and throwing up all over the place.

What's up with the youth of today??? They seem to be so self-centred. They don't seem to care about anything else but themselves. They are rude, disrespectful and glaringly misguidedly confident.

It's almost a week of Ramadan. Everywhere, I see supposedly Muslim kids blatantly munching away or smoking to their hearts content. Where's the respect? You don't see any of this a few years ago.

What has happened to this generation? Understandably, each generation has his fair share of bad behaviours. But I think this generation is the worse! Who should be responsible? Parents? Media? Parents blame the media but the media offers what is in demand!

I'm a mother of a 6 weeks old child and already I'm feeling the heat on how to raise her. Every day is a challenging day. The so-called parenting gurus don't help either. What is acceptable today may not be acceptable tomorrow.

I pray that my children will grow up to be responsible human beings.

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Sunday, August 23, 2009 @ 12:27 pm

Dear Blogger,

The first day of fasting went well. I had to put up with Ipy's whining about not eating and drinking though. "I have headache dear." "I feel very weak dear." Sometimes I really wonder who's the baby at home.

The other thing that annoyed me was being asked why was I fasting since I was breastfeeding Sarah. I know pregnant and breastfeeding women are excused from fasting. Still, they have to "return" those missed fasts on other days when capable. Why would I want to do that? I'm capable now.

I've also realised how over-passionate breastfeeding activists or lactavists can be. Like almost all activists, they can be close-minded. They are so bent on getting others to believe what they believe that they've forgotten that the world is big enough to accomodate other beliefs.

I encourage breastfeeding for all the benefits it provides to both the baby and mother. But I also don't offend bottle-feeders. There's nothing wrong in bottle-feeding a baby with formula milk. Both have their benefits.

Lactavists can make their points or views known, but they should not belittle others who choose to bottle-feed. Now that I'm capable of fasting, please don't accuse me of neglecting my baby for my own selfish reasons. Since when is abiding to God's laws being selfish???

I'm lucky that Sarah is smart enough and not fussy over the type of milk she consumes. She likes both breast milk and formula milk. She has not suffered any nipple confusion. In fact, she's growing very well thank you!

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Monday, August 17, 2009 @ 12:56 pm

Dear Blogger,

Sarah is 1 month old today! Yey!!! A month ago, she was a slippery little being. Now, she's so big and strong!

I think she's starting to look like me. Her hair is all Daddy's, but she is definitely starting to look like me. Her Daddy hopes she doesn't had Mommy's tantrums. Hahahahahaha! I hope not to! One emotionally-conflicted person in this household is enough.

Personally, I'll have much challenges again. Loans to pay. Savings to accumulate. There are times when I thought I should return to the workforce. But looking at Sarah now, I know she's my top priority.

Besides, working for the sake of wages and not doing something that you like is counter-productive. I know I'll just be miserable and that misery will not do anyone any good.

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Monday, August 10, 2009 @ 12:03 pm

Dear Blogger,

So... Singapore is now 44 years old. The Straits Times today is full of pictures and reports of last night's National Day Parade (NDP). We only watched about half of the show on TV. We lost interest in it after too many corny jokes by the comedic hosts and hostesses.

After years of trying to outdo previous years' parade, I think the NDP should just go back to basics i.e. marches and military prowess display. With no offense to all the choreographers, school children and civil service volunteers, I think we can do without the dances and theatrical displays for once. Maybe includes those acts once every 4 years or something.

So what does it mean to be Singaporean? What do I see (to quote the theme song this year)? I see more foreign-born Singaporeans, either "bought" by the government or self-brought by the attraction of Singapore's clean and safe records.

I have no problems with that. Singapore historically was an immigrant nation anyway. It's just that I wish the new Singaporeans would adapt to our culture and discard some of their homeland's bad habits. For example, born and bred Singaporeans are brought up to respect the litter bins. The new Singaporeans on the other hand, see the streets as one giant litter bin!

Also, no need to be scared of us and we don't need to be scared of them. We can all be friends. It's understandable to find solace in people from similar backgrounds, but one doesn't have to be so exclusive about it.

What does it mean for me to be a Singaporean? I still don't have a convincing answer. I would hesitate greatly to pack my bags and live in another country but that doesn't mean I'm a patriotic citizen. I guess one of the reasons why answering this question is so difficult is because all my life, I have been identified as a race than as a citizen.

Fill up any form, whether it is for school, work or simply a lucky draw, one is asked of his ethnic background. Is that even relevant? So, I've always been a Malay Singaporean instead of just Singaporean. Therefore, to ask what does it mean for me to be a Singaporean is almost an enigma.

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Friday, August 07, 2009 @ 2:01 pm

Dear Blogger,

Sarah is 3 weeks old today and already, she has gone to 2 weddings and countless trips to the malls, and she even has her own library membership card! Kids grow up so fast don't they?

Breastfeeding has been erratic. Despite breastfeeding her constantly, she still wants more after every session. Why is that so? The latch on seems correct. It's very frustrating.

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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Saturday, August 01, 2009 @ 10:28 pm

Dear Blogger,

At this afternoon's wedding of Ipy's cousin, I was temporarily embarrassed by the caterer because I had wanted to sample the vegetarian dishes meant for vegetarians. It was odd because I have never been to a Malay wedding where there were dishes reserved for a special, limited group of people.

It was a thoughtful gesture by the bride and groom I guess. Unfortunately, the caterer didn't place any notices anywhere near the dishes to inform that they were reserved, so how was anyone to know??? All the caterer did was place one of its staff on the lookout to inform clueless guests like me that the dishes were meant for vegetarians only.

I thought that was really distasteful of the caterer. That awful moment left a very bad taste in my mouth. I only ate everything on my plate because I didn't like to waste food. Also, since we were headed to the mall afterwards to buy Sarah's diapers, I ate what I can so as not to waste money on outside dining.

The malls, as always were packed to the brim. It was the first day of a new month so it was understandable that people want to spend their hard-earned money at the mall. If I had a choice, I really want to save my allowance from Ipy for as long as I can. That's just wishful thinking when my only responsibility when it comes to spending is to buy groceries and baby's needs.

Sincerely,
modgurl.

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